Updated: Feb 19, 2019
Reflections Turning 40
Life is a rollercoaster, working 9-5.
Well, we all say 9-5, but if you are a mother, wife, partner, you are working 5-9 with little time to think of anything for yourself. The alarm goes off at 5 am, you snooze and think about how you are going to rock the day, the alarm goes off again at 5.30am ... time to go....time to start the daily grind.
Last year was the big 4-0, and it was tough.... it may not be for some who are very okay with turning 40.... The kicker is I know we should be happy to reach that milestone because many don’t. But deep down I felt I was letting time pass me by in a blur, always putting off what I want and never seeming to achieve anything, feeling like I had gone backwards not forwards. Adding another 5-10 kg every year and wondering how did I get here?
I see other women and sometimes wish that I was like ’her’.
The hair and nails, done.
The handbag – on point.
She appears to not have a care in the world, financial or otherwise. The only true observation I learnt from this is comparison is the thief of joy.
I think most women have every intention of trying to better their lives, not only for themselves but their families too. But somewhere along the way, it can ALL GET LOST in living life.
I don't want to go to the grave with regrets, why can’t I as a mother and wife be what I dream?
Reflections Turning 50
Last year I had the milestone birthday of 50. In the months leading to it, I was a casebook study of a 49-year-old female who agonised endlessly over what have I achieved in my life. I am not where I thought I would be (a Mediterranean cruise anyone??), what is going to happen going forward, how did I get so, shhhh (fat)? Yes I hear you say it... mid life crisis.
Oh dear, it was quite confronting, but as always determined to ‘win the day’ I pulled up my socks and started working on the actions that I have control over. Surprisingly, or not, to those out there having an existential crisis at 40 or 50 (or any age, for that matter) is that when you decide to be pro-active, everything starts to look better. I was determined to enjoy my day and celebrate what many never get the chance to (and I know quite a few) so with my closest family and friends I rang in a new decade and a new me, and it was beautiful.
Mid life crisis a badly coined term if you ask me, a little self reflection never hurt anyone at any age.What are you waiting for?